I really love cooking. It provides me a feeling of calm when I am in the kitchen creating a tasty meal. When the food has come out delicious beyond how I imagined, I feel like there is magic in my hands. I have a feeling of communion with the food.
I think that is part of why living with my in-laws was so difficult. In someone else's house, the kitchen is not my own. I had to work within the unknown boundaries of another. As my mom likes to say, "there can never be more than two boobs in a kitchen." (which is either one woman or two men...) There is this unspoken, primal territorial tension between women when cooking that transcends cultural and language lines.
But I digress. There is so much uncontrollable change going on in this time of life that it is more important than ever to have a creative outlet. Creativity, by definition, is controlled by you. Whether it is cooking, writing, coding, or creating workouts, there needs to be some sort of outlet that makes you feel "in the zone." Be careful not to let it become an escape from the scary, tumultuous real life, but keep a balance of being stressed out and feeling creatively accomplished.
While you may not be able to control the uncontrollable, it is important to revel in those things that make you feel good. Be well!